The Causey Effect

Your fertility doesn’t just decline in a straight line.

Estrogen during perimenopause doesn’t only drop, it fluctuates, and on some days it can spike even higher than it did in your 20s.

Those spikes can trigger surprise ovulation, sometimes releasing more than one egg at once, which is part of why unplanned pregnancies and a jump in fraternal twins happen more often during this window.

Those same estrogen swings are also why your s*x drive can feel so unpredictable right now. Up one week, gone the next.

So if you’re done having babies, be careful! Your ovaries are still partying hard.

If your starting to consistently feel as though things that wouldn’t have bothered you before are starting to feel more catastrophic, you might be in the early stages of perimenopause.

Anxiety is often one of the most common early symptoms and most commonly dismissed as ‘just stress.’

While it very well could be stress, if you are in your mid to late 30’s/early 40’s, I would question that and begin to ask how your sleep was, if your cycle length had changed, are you getting any rage mixed in?

I have a whole Substack article I just wrote on the early signs and what to look for. Comment below and I’ll send you the link

Fair is fair. I got myself into some hot water with my response to the Meno-divorce videos popping up left and right over on the T app, so I thought it only fair to explain things (hormonally) from the men’s perspective.

So let’s talk andropause! Let me know your thoughts.

And to the men commenting on my videos and my DMs in support of their wives, asking how they can help, we see you and appreciate you more than you know. You and your partner are ❤️ I hope that I can provide some real help along the way

I think the sigh at the end says it all. Along with the finger smudged mirror and toys all around.

I know there really isn’t such a thing as true balance, but man do I still want it. Just in case you were wondering, if I’m dressed and looking all out together, chances are something else is falling apart.

Meno-divorce is trending on that other platform that starts with a T, and men are blaming their wife’s hormones for the end of their marriage. Since this is my wheelhouse I thought I’d chime in and talk about what’s actually happening.

Estrogen and oxytocin function as a biological buffer. They increase a woman’s tolerance, patience, and ability to absorb friction in a relationship without registering it as a threat. During perimenopause, estrogen declines and oxytocin sensitivity drops with it. The buffer starts to disappear.

It’s not the problems in the marriage that get worse with perimenopause and menopause. It’s her tolerance for them does.

This isn’t hormones causing divorce. This is hormones removing the filter that let her overlook what was already an issue.

If you’re in perimenopause and feel like you’ve lost patience for things you used to let go, this is completely normal!

As for the husbands complaining about it, all jokes aside, I get your side too. She’s changing and that’s a hard very transition for both of you. But let’s spin it into an opportunity to improve. Your marriage might actually come out stronger on the other side.

Follow along for more bad marriage advice. 👀

First off, this should be a time where I woman is focusing on healing and caring for her baby. Not worrying about fitting into her skinny jeans.

Let’s add to the fact that her hormones are completely out of whack, she’s not sleeping and 1 in 5 women will have postpartum thyroiditis, it’s not wonder women don’t instantly bounce back!

I for one didn’t lost a single pound until after I stopped breast feeding and I was actually sick and could barely eat.

So tell me, what do you think? Is this complete BS or should we try to get back to it as soon as possible?