Essential Lifestyle

Moms—quick thought going into summer…

If your child or teen struggled this year (with learning, focus, behavior, or confidence), waiting until fall usually makes it harder.

Summer is actually the best time to catch up and get ahead.

No pressure. No grades. Just space to build skills, routines, and confidence.

You don’t need hours a day—just the right support and consistency.

I work with kids and teens to close academic gaps and strengthen behavior so they walk into the school year ready, not already behind.

If that’s something your child needs, feel free to message me.

Today, I coached a parent who came to me because she is extremely concerned that her teen child will not be prepared for life. She expressed to me:

-he forgets everything
-does not do his chores
-disrespects me
-is addicted to media and video games
-is not motivated
-has poor time management
-does not listen
-dislikes school-impulsive
-unorganized

These are common challenges for individuals who have been identified as neurodivergent. This simply means that their brain has strengths and weaknesses. Their weaknesses cause challenges in behavior that many times we label as rude or disrespectful In actuality, they struggle with executive function.

Traditional discipline strategies do not work with individuals who struggle with executive function skills. In fact, they work against them only making them feel more stressed out and increase anger or withdrawal.

Traditional counseling, ABA therapy, Play therapy and many other types of therapies many times do not full get the results parents are looking for because they do not address the most critical factor in making the brain stronger. The brain is a muscle and can get stronger!

There are over 19 factors that affect behavior and some are not obvious. In fact, most discipline strategies do not address the five factors that are most important in getting the results necessary for children and teens to improve self regulation.

I assess these five factors to equip parents, teachers and students to have success quickly. I not only have professional training, I am the mom of three neurodiverse children!! I get to practice all the time!!!!

What would life feel like if your child or teen:

-had less tantrums
-no more melt downs
-was more cooperative
-managed school well
-remembered things
-was more responsible
-had better cooperation
-developed interest in other things besides video games?

Yes, it is possible!

If your ready, say yes I am ready!

If any woman who struggles with stress, anxiety, being overwhelmed, depression join us online to learn biblical tools that will get rid of those thoughts and emotions that are not true to your true identity as a daughter of Christ!

You are invited to a Zoom meeting.
When: Jul 6, 2024 08:30 AM Central Time (US and Canada)

Register in advance for this meeting:
https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZItfumpqDkqHNM513vUN292D-YaS3gQYrjo

After registering, you will receive a confirmation email containing information about joining the meeting.

Welcome! You are invited to join a meeting: HUNGRY HEARTS: How Presence Creates Peace. After registering, you will receive a confirmation email about joining the meeting. Welcome! You are invited to join a meeting: HUNGRY HEARTS: How Presence Creates Peace. After registering, you will receive a confirmation email about joining the meeting.

Resistant and Unmotivated Learners and those that don’t focus and follow instructions well can make us feel frusterated!

As a parent, we get baited into the power struggle.

We shame, blame and complain.
We threaten.
We manipulate.
We offer rewards.

We do this because we interpret their behavior incorrectly. We assume that they are:

Defiant
Disobedient
Disrespectful
Lazy
Angry
Not motivated
Not focused

And they don’t want to learn or are not trying!

This could be further than the truth.

The truth is, it’s their brain not their will.

If we are honest, we all avoid things that bring no pleasure or makes no sense!!! We all push boundaries.

Don’t believe me? Do you eat healthy and work out enough? Do you wait till the last minute to file your taxes? Do you speed? lol!

Research shows that to get students to develop resiliency, preserver and learn the content that we know is important or the skills that make you successful in life, we must do three things:

1) Train the Brain -Change the hardware
We know that the brain is Neuroplastic. That means it can change and get stronger. When academics make no sense it means their is a weakness in the brain. When behavior is impulsive, it means their is a weakness in the brain. This is changeable. This is moldable without using meds.

2) Inputs must make Sense-Change the Software
We must use teaching strategies that are three dimensional. Schools and parents typical teach content or attempt to change behavior using one dimensional strategies. You can do it all day long but it won’t help the student read better, do math better, write better or behave better.

3)Change the Environment by giving the student control - Change the Operating System
Students are motivated when things make sense. When they connect the dots of learning or behavior. Kids and teens really do want to please adults.

Are you ready to stop the power struggles, the tantrums (yours and theirs) and finally get the brain to do what it’s designed to do?

Be successful! If your ready to have your child experience success! Reach out!

When your child is not doing well, it makes a mom feel hopeless. I know, I have been there.

When you know they are smart but not confident academically, it breaks your heart.

When my child was not learning, I did not understand all the reasons that were holding her back academically.

We lost a great deal of time. Time I could never get back.

After experiencing success with my own children, training teachers and working with families for over twenty years, I have a researched based three-part strategy that gets my students a 99% success rate.

I create a plan that is unique for your child. A plan that gives them the information in a way that their brain will understand.

The brain is neuroplastic. That means we can change the structure and make it stronger.

Do not let your student get behind.
Help them gain the confidence they need to feel smart and be successful!!!

All children want to learn.
All children want to be successful.
You can't buy more time.

But, you can be intentional about putting them in a position to make the brain stronger and faster.
To gain the skills needed to finally feel that reading, writing and math make sense.

All behavior tells us something.

Perceived negative behavior is not a student being bad, difficult, stubborn.

Parents tell me, he was so good yesterday but today he won’t make good choices.

When a child:
🟠won’t do homework
🟢Does not want to go to school
🔵struggles with school transitions
🟣Lies
🔴throws tantrums
🔵only wants to play video games

You keep repeating yourself over and over and still no change of behavior.

You have tried tough love and soft love and nothing!

You have tried every punishment and bribe and still no results.

That tells us something. It tells us a lot!

If you keep using the same strategies, you will get the same results.

There are three questions we need to answer to change the behavior. Just three.

Are you ready to stop the madness?

Are you ready to stop the roller coaster of emotions for you and your child?

Message me so we can answer the questions that lead to better choices.

All children want to learn!
All children want to behave and please the adults in their lives!

Back By Popular Demand!!!!!!!!

Weight Loss Mastermind! (Online)

Before I became a full-time Learning and Behavior Therapist, I did a lot of health coaching programs!

My own story is that for many years I suffered with endometriosis. It affected my fertility. After two surgeries and meds, nothing would get rid of the pain. So my doctor wanted to give me a hysterectomy. After researching the side affects of HRT, I said no. After much research, I healed my body naturally, lost 32 pounds, god rid of the pain and avoided a hysterectomy.

Loosing weight is easy. Keeping it off is much much harder. I went from a size 16 to an 8 and I am still an 8 eight years later!

A few friends reached out to me a few months ago and asked me to do another weight lost mastermind.

So guess what! We start May 16th! Four nights of group coaching and lifetime access to my VIP keep it off Facebook Group!

I promise you this! It will include:

✅No need to buy any suppliments, powders or drinks.

✅No eating food that’s bland.

✅No cooking things that are weird (I hate cooking).

✅No going to Whole Foods!

✅No buying foods you are not used to!

✅No buying programs or memberships.

You will get an individualized person plan that works for you abx you only.

You also will get to eat lol!!!

You will be able to start to fimmediately and see and/or feel results within 48-72 hours!!

If you would like the registration form and all the details, private message me or post below that you would like it and I will send to you.