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Have you secretly asked one of these questions 👀

“Where did my libido go the second I got married?

Is it impossible to or**sm during traditional in*******se?

How to learn how to or**sm and feel more pleasure?

What if I’ve never had an or**sm?

Should I wax/shave? How much should I take off?

For Christian married couples. How to know the line of what is okay and what’s not?”

We answer ALL of these questions and more inside “Tye Ultimate S*x Course for Christian Women.”

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You can deeply love Jesus, genuinely desire marriage, and still have a VERY real desire for s*x.

Those things aren’t contradictions.

One of David Schnarch’s (a favorite author of mine) ideas that has challenged me most is differentiation: learning to stay grounded in yourself and your convictions even when your emotions and desires are pulling you in another direction.

And being single with a s*x drive can be one giant lesson in differentiation.

You can want intimacy and not have it.

You can feel lonely without desperately finding someone to make the loneliness disappear.

You can experience s*xual desire without turning it into an emergency.

You can want marriage without making marriage responsible for making you feel whole.

Schnarch talks about learning to tolerate emotional discomfort instead of immediately trying to eliminate it.

And sometimes that’s HARD.

Sometimes waiting feels lonely.
Sometimes it’s frustrating.
Sometimes you desperately want what you don’t have.

But maybe s*xual maturity isn’t about eliminating desire.

Maybe it’s learning to hold the desire without letting it hold you.

You don’t have to shame your s*xuality to honor your convictions.

You don’t have to pretend you’re not s*xual to be s*xually pure.

You can say:

“I really want this… and I can tolerate not having it right now.”

That’s differentiation.

That’s emotional maturity.

And that’s a very different kind of s*xual integrity. 🤍

Ready to go deeper?

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Asking GOOD questions is crucial in a dating relationship.

⬇️ Here are 8 that can be very revealing. ⬇️

1. What is your view on the role of a wife? The role of a husband?

2. How important is it to be part of a small accountability/support group?

3. What is your view of debt?

4. What do you tend to do in your spare time?

5. Are you a virgin? If not, please explain.

6. Is there anything in your past that I would be surprised by if I found out?

7. In what ways is self-centeredness expressed in your life?

8. What is your view of money in general? How do you make money decisions?

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Underprepared + Uneducated = Major Disappointment.

That’s the harsh reality for many Christian brides.

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That’s why I created the MOST amazing in-depth course DESIGNED with the Christian bride in mind.

This six session intensive is deigned to equip you with the education, preparation and knowledge to experience the most satisfying pleasure with your groom.

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YOU CAN HAVE A PLEASURE FILLED HONEYMOON. 

In this course, I’ve brought on some of the greatest experts regarding s🔥🔥, pleasure, marriage and intimacy. 

You will have the opportunity to learn from Drs, physiologists, and godly women who’ve done the work themselves to have an amazing marriage

This course is for ANY WOMAN who desires to start her marriage well and enjoy 🔥 from the very beginning. 

Here’s what you can expect over the six sessions.  

COURSE OVERVIEW:

Session 1: God’s Beautiful Design for Marriage and 🔥 (Bethany Beal) 

Session 2: Five Crucial Conversations to Have with Your Fiancé before the Honeymoon (Bethany Beal) 

Session 3: Making Sense of Pleasure, 0rg8sm and Your Body (Dr. Jennifer Degler) 

Session 4: The True Path Toward a SPICY Bedroom (Dr Glen & Phyllis Hill)

Session 5: Questions Christian Women are too Afraid to ask about S🔥x (Francie Winslow) 

Session 6: Everything You NEED to Know to Prep for Your Honeymoon (Bethany Beal)

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💖,

Bethany

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If you’re new here, what’s up, I’m Bethany!
I’m a 38 year old Christian wife, mom x3 and author x6. If you love all things wifehood, deep conversations, real marriage talk, faith, and a little bit of fun, this space is for you ❤️
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