Sarah Denise is the Tenderizer - Yamuna Body Rolling

In a often repressed, cruel
and coldhearted world

Feeling fully and loudly...

Is an act of rebellion!

Polite society frowns upon any feelings that are messy or loud.

Good thing that I have never cared to fit in with them

They love to judge emotional responses from others....

I am going to judge anyone who DOES NOT have an emotional response to atrocities committed.

When someone has an emotional response to something... I see that as human.

Repressing your emotions or just being void of feeling any compassion seems pretty sociopathic to me.

The people who are not ashamed to feel their beautiful, messy feelings are my kind of people.

Anyone who justifies being cruel to others that are suffering is part of the problem.

No excuses - just be kind.

Sarah Denise the Tenderizer

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Happy Canadian Thanksgiving!!

Please don't constantly judge past versions of yourself.

Make room for growth, for healing and for change.

Hold yourself accountable in a compassionate and forgiving way.

The years you spent in survival mode have changed you.

Now that you are safe,
(please be safe)
you can heal and find joy in simples moments.

The time you take to heal and regulate your nervous system is your own personal cocoon.

Each moment is precious in it's own way.

Become the butterfly.

Be proud of yourself for every damned thing you have survived.

So much love & so many blessings!!
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Sarah Denise the Tenderizer

An accurate description of the narcissister that was in my life until her cruel behaviour was the end of my Mother.
Then, the rest of us had had enough.

After a lifetime of my Mom, Dad, brother and then my partner doing everything for her because she was completely abusive to my parents and because if my partner and I didn't help her she would just force my parents to.

I wish I would've stood up to her sooner.

She has always been ungrateful.

My Dad ended up in the hospital with heat stroke because he was cleaning her house while she did nothing.

My Dad showed me all of the receipts he kept of all the times they had to rescue her from her bad behaviour. My parents had to go to court because she sold the appliances in their condo before it sold. She trashed her apartment and
Mom wrote the cheque. She expected them to be accountable for her actions.

She crashed a work van, and they paid.

She would make them pay for her to take course or pyramid schemes ; accounting, primerica, massage school, etc. She never finished anything. She was completely dependent on my parents for things that should never have been their responsibility.
A parasite. A leech.

This is why we need to say no to people like this. And, when they rage and bully.... we still say no. Ask them to leave if they behave awful. Call the police if they are violent.

They are always testing boundaries.

Show them you are not enabling their abuse or dependency anymore.

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The human part of me really wants to have human friends and healthy loving relationships with my family.
The soul part of me wants every moment of my life to be a spiritual experience✨

The soul part of me just wants to sit with trees, meditate in the sun and connect with my soul guidance and guardians...

The soul part of me is not willing to compromise values and self-respect.

The human part of me has had to get on board and practice boundaries.

I read somewhere that people pleasing is low key actually actually manipulating someone to like you.

I think a lot of it comes from childhood wounds and wanting to be a 'nice' person.

I have been working for decades to heal my own crap, & to allow in new perspectives so I can see the world without my wounds clouding everything.

I have a tendency to put ppl on a pedestal... even when not reciprocated.

I think it's ok to admit if you don't think you are 'liked' or valued and move on. It is easy to make excuses and gaslight yourself into tolerating cruelty and enabling bullying.

But you know.

You clocked every single time that they said or did something that wasn't in alignment with how you choose to treat others.
Something that was cruel and hit a hell of a lot deeper than something that could be passed off as a joke.

You know in your heart if someone has no respect for you.

And it's ok if you choose not to want to spend time with people who feel that way.

Spend time with the people who light you up.

It is okay to want to authentically connect to other humans.

We all deserve that kind of real connection...

Remember that you are an amazing wonderful human and it's important to take time to get to know yourself.

If you don't shine as your own authentic light in the world...
then how can your true people find you?

💕Sarah Denise

my soul wants to turn everything into a spiritual experience

the human part wants to savour the simple moments of my life.

i say,

do both!

do it all!!!

Sarah Denise the Tenderizer