Unfilteredtherapistmama

What are the little moments that make you think “nope, not adult enough for this decision!” 🤷‍♀️😂🤯

Life feels a little wild right now. I’ve never fit nicely into a box and now is no different. Liberal. Christian. Mom of a middle schooler and a 9-month-old. I've worked since I was 16, and my dream is finally to stay home, but now my stay-at-home friends are going back to work and loving it. Where do you fit right now? Where don’t you? By the way, my village is still there…still solid. We are just now in different, but same phases lol it’s complicated. 😂

I know, I know mamas you are just trying to support your kiddo. I get it and I’ve done it (in fact I did it a lot in the beginning)! However, instead of your getting feeling supported, they store our reassurance as evidence…proof that it is in fact dangerous for us to leave and we know it too! “See she doesn’t trust the teacher either, that’s why she is staying 5 min longer.” Now do they say that out loud…NO! But it’s how it’s processed in their brain. And the sneaking out is never helpful and ABSOLUTELY increases anxiety. Always say good bye and walk away even if it results in a meltdown.

I mean we are in the middle of a sleep regression! This age is soooo fun. Spent 20 min blowing up Dino sprinklers and a splash pad… LOVED the blowing up part. Loved the eat grass while hooking up the hose part. Did not love the playing in the water all set up part! So we went to the swings…5min later.

So here’s the deal with that and it can also be frustrating to the Therapist. Unless your therapist which let me be clear very very few had this training had training and parent evaluations or forensic psychology and there’s a couple other ones out there they are ethically not allowed to give any sort of custody recommendations. They could want to all they want. They may be on your side 100% and they are not allowed to give a recommendation to you or to court. Aside from that, they are not allowed to appear in court, write a letter, make a phone call, provide any sort of documentation without a court order, without a subpoena. It could literally cost them their license and potentially in some cases, put them in jail. it’s a violation of HIPAA. So no…I won’t be volunteering to help you in your custody battle. Yes, even if subpoenaed I am going to attempt to get out of it. It’s simply not the role of the therapist…

Why does my therapist…charge a no show/late cancellation fee? Because our time is valuable. When we are not sitting across from a client providing therapy we are not making money. Even more important, it’s taking a spot from someone else. If you learned something new, smiled or felt validated by something I shared, please like and follow my post. I dream of the day I get to use my therapy license to solely support mamas in the chaos of parenting.