Maks Life Coaching

It’s not always “he just really wants you.”

Sometimes, it’s something deeper.

Psychologists link this to patterns we don’t often talk about — including borderline personality traits.

And no, this isn’t about a naturally high s*x drive. That’s different.

Here, intimacy can become a way to:
— feel in control
— avoid the fear of being abandoned
— or prove: “I’m still loved”

That’s why it often feels like a rollercoaster:
hot and intense… then distant and cold.

No stability.

Because inside, tenderness and aggression are mixed together.

So closeness doesn’t feel safe —
it feels overwhelming.

The good news?
This can change.

In therapy, people learn how to build real closeness —
without control, drama, or fear.

Does this feel familiar?

Anxiety, panic, or lack of focus isn’t weakness — it’s a dysregulated nervous system, and sometimes one simple body-based step can restore a sense of control.