Unfelt by Amberella

Don't play burned now 👊

Forgiveness is for those who have wronged you.
So, you can’t forgive an offense that never happened.

But you can release the resentment that weighs on your heart.
Peace is for letting go of those who simply failed your selfish expectations.

Amen

What you don’t realize is that a narc is secretly planning your destruction at the same time are telling you that you are the love of their life.

When they were love bombing you, they took you out on dates, took you shopping, and spent most of their time with you no matter what you were doing… BUT love bombing will only last for a little while as they don’t intend to keep doing it forever.

They are fully aware that everything they start will surely end so they are always working in the background against you while seemingly interested in you to your face.

When you start to see them for who they really are, they will provoke arguments and start recording your reactions only after they started the argument. They will record you when your sad, angry, tired or frustrated. You need to pay attention to these times as well because the narc will act calm, reframe from saying anything that makes them look bad while they record you. They do this because they've spent your entire relationship lying to co- workers, friends, family, landlords, police, your children's schools and staff and neighbors about you. You're crazy, mean, on drugs, abusive, you cheat, you're lazy, a gold digger, you're the reason they are broke dicks, a bad wife/husband, lack of communication, a bad mother/father, you're an idiot, a w***e and whatever else they can possibly think to say about you… so I'm order to prove what they went around and said about you, they provoke you, but only record your reactions so that you do seem crazy and mean…

The disgusting part about it is that the narc actually enjoys watching you fall apart. It is their goal to destroy you when they are getting ready for your discard. And what I mean by that, is that they will do everything in their power to get themselves out of everything they did to you. So not only did they victimize you throughout your entire relationship, they victimize you even more by making you out to be the bad guy for the things that they did. They don't just record you, they also put hidden cameras up around the house to watch you in hopes they will catch you doing something wrong.

If you always have negative things to say others, quickly blaming others and deflecting fault is a hallmark of emotional immaturity.

It often serves as a psychological defense mechanism to protect a fragile ego, avoid the discomfort of accountability, and mask deeper insecurities or shame.

Why It Happens
Ego Protection: Admitting fault can feel like a direct threat to self-worth for someone who is immature, making shifting the blame an easier alternative.

Avoidance of Inner Work: Blaming allows individuals to bypass the necessary self reflection required to grow and change their behavior.

Poor Emotional Regulation: Emotionally immature individuals often struggle to process serious emotions, leading to impulsive and reactive finger pointing.

With you, there is always something.

No matter what I do, it is never enough.
One complaint turns into another until I can’t even breathe.

I don’t recognize myself anymore.

You complain about the life you chose and place blame everywhere except where it belongs.
You take no responsibility for your part.

I’m done explaining my feelings.
I’m choosing to walk away.

Narcissists seek to feel superior through projection, gaslighting, and bewildering communication.
Interactions with narcissists can leave you feeling devalued, undermined, and depleted.

Narcissists are difficult because their insatiable need for attention and approval means you can never meet their expectations, no matter how much you try, leaving you feeling like you’re always doing something “wrong.”

They project emotions they cannot tolerate onto others, offloading shameful or uncomfortable feelings, sometimes subtly or nonverbally, which can leave you feeling flawed or uneasy, and other times violently, like walking into a hornet’s nest.

They refuse to take responsibility for their actions, blaming others instead, and their defensiveness reflects deep insecurities behind a grandiose façade.

Anyone can become a target of their anger, as they make no distinctions between innocent parties and those close to them. When they feel you’ve let them down, even unknowingly, they experience rage, viewing you as an object rather than a person, to punish or protect themselves.

Gaslighting and covert insults are used to keep you off balance, making you question your memory or sensitivity, while double standards and hypocrisy allow them to say one thing one day and the opposite the next. Overall, narcissists manipulate, deceive, and project to maintain control, often at the expense of empathy, fairness, or consistency, leaving those around them confused, hurt, and questioning themselves.

If you marry into a house
where a mother wears the crown of silence,
her rule unchallenged,
her cruelty baptized as “just how she is,”
then do not be surprised

When you refuse to kneel,
when your spine stays straight,
when your “no” lands like thunder
in a room built for obedience

They will name you the storm.

Because boundaries are mirrors,
and mirrors terrify those
who have survived by never being seen.

You didn’t break the family.
You revealed it.
A system built on fear
will always blame the one
who dares to breathe freely.

Some relationships are really sad… they exist, yet you have to go through life alone.

Even when you have a relationship…
there’s no one to share the joys and sorrows of life, the stresses of work, or the happiness and unhappiness that come with life.

Even while in a relationship…
one side expresses love, while the other keeps bringing up past people and past matters that cause hurt.

Even while in a relationship…
when you want to share your suffering, there’s no one there to support you.

When others around you are praising or admiring, you can’t even show them how your partner feels or what’s really happening because there’s nothing to show.

The truth is…
to be loved, to be cared for, to feel warmth…
only people who truly love you and intend to stay for a lifetime can give that, without making you cry or feel small.

Understanding means…
acknowledging each other’s freedom,
and also understanding how your actions affect the other person’s heart.