Claire Mockridge - Personal Blog

Throwing jt back to this Burlesque gem from last year 💎 I loved the routine, and the costume I upcycled! It was super fun 🤩 💃

The Kinda Chic trend is a light-hearted way of sharing back stories, tough transitions and hard-earned successes. I for one, know that PAST me would’ve felt a little triggered 😩

I struggled to view other people’s accomplishments in a positive light

I’d have one of the following responses:

1️⃣ “Why can’t I feel that way about myself?” – here, I’m COMPARING myself to her, and basically tearing myself down in the process

2️⃣ “Oh, she’s just showing off” – this is good old CYNICISM, which is basically jealousy in disguise. I wasn’t annoyed at her for sharing. I was annoyed at myself for not being able to

3️⃣ “Oh, that must be nice” – and, off I go DEFLECTING those emotions again, denying myself the opportunity to feel something my body is desperately wanting me to address

4️⃣ “I have nothing like that to celebrate” - this is SHAME at play, and it’s the most painful, because it’s not about anyone else at all. It’s just me, alone with the belief that I simply didn’t have anything worth celebrating. Spoiler: I did. I just didn’t know how to in an authentic way

None of those reactions are about the person/what they posted. They were about MY relationship with my own self-worth

The Kinda Chic content is like a mirror, reflecting back to me the things I needed to work on 🪞

It wasn’t until very recently that I actually felt PRIDE for myself, all by myself, and, now when people share their own successes - they hit very differently 🏆

If any of those responses felt uncomfortable, that’s not something to be ashamed of. That’s just where you are right now, and that’s exactly where I was before I started doing this work.

The difference between then and now? I can read a Kinda Chic post and feel genuinely happy for the person who wrote it, and then quietly feel proud of myself too 🥹

That’s what’s waiting for you on the other side.

DM me the word VALIDATE, and let’s chat about how I can help you build up your self-worth, learn how to validate yourself, and go out into the wide world feeling proud of yourself, instead of feeling triggered by the next social media success trend 💁�

When it comes to validating children, the script is most definitely changing (for the better 😅).

I talk about, and give examples of the difference between how baby boomers praised their children, and how modern parents are doing it, so take a read and let me know what you think 👍🏻

The link is in my bio, or click this link: https://substack.com/?r=46jlrj&utm_campaign=profile&utm_medium=profile-page

Facebook memories — the receipts you never asked for. 😂

Eleven years ago I was running the external validation loop without even realising it. Setting it up. Seeking it out. Receiving it. And then opening a second loop on Facebook just to make sure.

Two likes. Past Claire clung to every single one. 😂

When validation becomes your only hobby — this is what it looks like in practice.

If this felt familiar, DM me the word VALIDATE and let’s see how I can help you release your need for validation from others too 💛