Renee Mayne

So this happened today, words from a client about how easy things can be, what happens when we devote our life to our third nervous system state… our current takes us downstream baby!

I was chatting to a friend the other day and we were talking about getting to midlife after so being so long working toward a goal that often, we don’t even want anymore! Midlife has a way of removing everything that doesn’t belong anymore.

The vital step in manifesting abundance that most people miss.

Here’s the truth that lies between the vision board with the shiny new car and your dream home,

What manifest AI won’t tell you.

That is the space between the dream and the reality,

Your right next step.

All your money problems and abundance problems could be solved in an instant but the truth is, most people can’t hold it.

We all know the stats around people winning the lotto and losing it two seconds later.

What we talk about inside my work is the compounding effect and micro transformations.

Here is the perfect example of this that happened to a client,

She was working two jobs, day and night, for years.

When she started working with me, she had just given up her second job.

But was still working 7 days a week, day and night, just in one job.

The first thing we got started on in all of my work is changing our “operating system”,

Moving into what I call the third state in the nervous system, Thaliasympathic (the one where we flourish)

We focus on micro moments, micro transformation, and we let them compound,

Here’s how it unfolded for my client,

How she felt every day changed,

How she showed up every day changed,

How we danced with life changed,

How she related to people changed,
Now, she is working much less,

She has a day off every week,

Earning more, not a huge amount more… but more.

She is thriving and feels amazing.

She is learning the work,

Doing the work,

… And in a world that preaches overnight success and abundance, we need to be real.

The third nervous system state, hear me out!

As a near 50 year old here’s what I know I’m NOT doing on social media.

Things I had to unlearn about Soul Work, you know the BS we tell ourselves as coaches, healers and practitioners that serve in a meaningful way…

I want to say something to every woman who is trying to build a business while also raising kids, caring for parents, holding a relationship together and managing everyone else’s emotional load.
I see you.
You’re carrying more than anyone knows.
And you’re still here. Still building. Still trying.

That’s the most extraordinary kind of strength.

I’m sorry the world keeps making it this hard.

Your talent is not wasted.
You are brilliant.

Don’t give up .

The truth about your purpose, your soul work, if you’ve ever wondered “Is this what I’m supposed to be doing” this is for you.

Let’s talk about manifesting our soul mate, finding “the one” and how problematic it can be unless you understand this.

When we make someone else responsible for our pleasure, several things happen, and none of them serves us.

1. We become dependent on their mood, their desire, their energy and their attention to access our own aliveness. On the days they’re distracted, tired, disconnected or simply human, we feel abandoned by our own pleasure. Not because they’ve done anything wrong. Because we’ve handed them something that was never theirs to hold.

2. We also start to perform rather than feel. When pleasure becomes about what we’re giving or receiving from another person, we begin monitoring the experience rather than inhabiting it. So we get in our heads about it... Are they enjoying this? Am I doing this right? Do they find me desirable? Is this taking too long. The mind takes over and the body quietly leaves the room.

3. And perhaps most significantly, we start to resent the people we’ve made responsible for something they never agreed to carry. The partner who doesn’t initiate enough. The lover who doesn’t read our mind. The relationship that should be making us feel alive but somehow isn’t.

The resentment isn’t really about them.

It’s about the parts of ourselves we’ve been waiting for someone else to unlock.

That’s unfair.

It creates attachment, pressure and expectations, and that’s not fun for anyone.

It’s all for you first and you have the power to be it for yourself first.

If you want a long-term relationship that is healthy, nourishing, fun and YUM.

Your er.otic current is yours.

It does not begin with another person.

It does not require permission.

It does not need the right conditions or the perfect moment or a partner who finally understands what you need.

It begins with you.

With your own relationship to your body.

With your own capacity to feel pleasure independent of anyone else’s participation.

With your own willingness to be turned on by your life, your senses, your aliveness, before you ever bring another person into the equation.

Do you love to learn and not so great at building, and you know it’s costing you? Here are 3 things I did to change this and build my business quickly.